I will soon be moving, no, not in the physical sense (not yet anyway) but in the online internetty sense. I will be changing domain name/web address/that thingy at the top of your screen bit.
I have reasons for the move, as ever with me they are a little mixed up and wobbly, but I feel as reasons they are pretty valid.
Here they are;
So Easy Life as a domain name was meant to sort of brand the ‘so easy’ book series. At the time of conception it seemed like a pretty good idea (doesn’t everything at that moment!), after all those were my only book avenues.
However a year has passed and I’m doing other things and broadening my horizons so the name is just part of things and not the whole.
The other reason is a lot more me-ish and difficult to express. Every morning when I log on I see the so easy life banner, all my emails carry the name, it is all around me. It is as if I am tying myself up in ribbons printed with those words. They are nice words, inspiring words. But let’s face it they are not true words for every day for most of us. Seeing those words so much when things aren’t easy can actually make things harder. The fact that I put them up there and practically branded myself with them can make it all the more difficult to bear sometimes. One can almost feel as if one is failing oneself by not living up to the words.
So I decided to change the name. To stop punishing myself with the so easy life moniker and just be me. So very soon this blog will change over to being www.larderlove.com. There, I’ve said it, it’s just a name, my work name.
This has all been bubbling away for some time, and it all came to a head at the weekend and I made the decision to change. Then a couple of days later I received an email from a friend in America talking about blogging and how someone had said to her that they were sick and tired of all those ‘ain’t life grand’ blogs were people seem to live this fantastical life that actually makes the reader feel bad.
This really resonated with me. A couple of the blogs that I’ve read for years now seem to have skipped off into the seriously joyously happy happy land where the writer is living the life few of us would even dare to dream of. They are jet setting around the world, hosting their own TV shows, have perfect handsome loving husbands, great kids, wonderfully supportive extended families, lots of money and everything is amazing. It is so amazing that just by reading their pages I can feel myself shrivel up inside. I am no longer inspired by their lifestyles, I am now crushed and feel as if I have failed and am useless that I have no hope of ever achieving even a modicum of that happiness.
This to me is where blogging can be dangerous. If you take it all at face value you can’t live up to some of this stuff. I don’t want people to think that of me. I thought the name So Easy Life was actually a slap in the face to myself sometimes, it could just as easily be hurting someone else out there when they read it. So there is the other reason for changing the name. I don’t want to make anyone feel that I am showing off some look-at-me-I-have-such-an-easy-wonderful-life, now go out and feel bad about yourself because you don’t have one. I know I am very blessed in what I do have, for that I am eternally grateful, but like most of the population there are many things I would like to have, to change, and so many I would like to aspire to.
So there you have it, so easy life as a name will be no more as soon as the technology can manage to change it.
I know friends and readers who have been with me for a long time (I started all this back in 2008) will understand where I am coming from on this one. I hope the rest of you (you are there aren’t you?) do to.
Thanks for reading.